Perennial Parenting

I often think how it would be when my son grows to become a young man. A man; with his own individuality, thoughts and mannerisms; leading his life as per his own terms and conditions.

Perhaps he would never need my shoulder to rest upon or his parents company to share his plans.. My thoughts are farfetched and my husband consoles me that I always imagine the worst things in life! Reality might be very different…Amen!

But to come to think of it, my son whom I loving call a ‘butter ball’…a cutie pie who wants his mother’s cuddle for a peaceful sleep, will no longer need one in future…That’s not an issue…

The real issue is a child grows to be a man, but a mother continues to be a mother! And for that matter even a father would always be a father.

I now begin to slowly understand how difficult it must be for parents and in-laws to accept this truth…Your kids are no longer kids…but you continue to remain their parents…

My heart bleeds for the parents of so many youngsters (including me at times) who disrespected their parents, did not heed to their warnings and just turned a deaf ear to their so called nagging!

The other day I went to my friend’s show at the Lakme Fashion week…A budding and talented designer, she was exhibiting her collection and had sent passes for all friends. A moment of truth for me was to see her parents seated in the first row, promptly punctual, distinctly different from rest of the Fashion world, but yet so accommodating in nature!

My heart went out for them. While the jury and other personalities would be commenting and judging her designing skills and the model’s ramp walk styles, I felt, her parents were simply ruminating on the various hardships that they would have gone through to see this day! The various arguments, tussles and outbursts that would have gone into mastering the skills in a perennial subject called ‘Parenting’

Now I know, why my mother said, “You will understand what a mother is when you become one”…so true mommy!!!